…Until they have the DTR talk. If you don’t know what DTR means, you are not normal, but I will slowly bring you to the normal side by telling you. DTR stands for “Defining The Relationship.”
Defining the relationship is a crucial step in the dating process. Bottom line, you DO NOT refer to someone you have been talking to/dating/friendly with/(enter your own phrase for it here) as your boyfriend, girlfriend or significant other until you have spoken to that person about the status of your relationship and they have AGREED with you that this is the path that they would like to take. If you skip this step, not only are you abnormal, but you are psycho. Go get your noggin checked. I am sure the yellow pages have some people listed that could help you out.
Not having a conversation with the other person and referring to them as your BF/GF is relationship suicide. You might as well kiss that person goodbye because nobody wants to be associated with someone who is looking up psychologists in the yellow pages.
On the same note, if you have not had the DTR, do not expect the other person whom you are talking to to not go on dates with other people or talk to other people, etc. Remember, they are single (as are you) and not REQUIRED to tell you any of this because you are not their other half! However, if they are a straight shooter and do pass this information along your way, you have ZERO right to be jealous. You take that big ball of jealously and attitude and stuff it right back in your pocket and go cry in the corner to yourself because there is nothing you can do about it! Why? BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT TOGETHER.
DTR offenders are usually women (sorry ladies, but it is true). However, men make these critical abnormal errors as well, so as keeper of the normal universe, it is my duty to share this with you and ask everyone out there to PLEASE not jump the gun, change your facebook status to “in a relationship,” or begin designing your wedding invitations until this critical talk has taken place.
if you remember nothing else from this post, remember this:
D-T-R. And if you can’t remember that, memorize this…